Instilling Good Habits in Children

As an organizer, I've been told many times and in a variety of ways, "I just don't have the organizing gene." It is true that organization comes naturally to some people, and for others it is more of a struggle. That said, organization is a skill, or set of skills, and as such, it can be learned...and taught.

If you are raising children, organization skills are some of the best skills you can instill in them. Teaching organization skills to children will benefit them in a variety of ways. Children with organization skills are able to:

• Work more effectively and complete tasks and assignments with greater ease
• Think creatively
• Work independently
• Grasp the basics of time management
• Plan ahead
• Approach tasks in an orderly fashion
• Experience less stress and frustration
• Perform better academically​

Instill Good Habits

Teaching organization skills to children begins with instilling good habits. This can be accomplished in a variety of ways. The more approaches that are utilized, the more likely children are to understand, master, and adopt the skills you're trying to teach. Try implementing the following:

• Hold a weekly family meeting: Teach time management and planning by holding a weekly family meeting to go over the calendar and discuss any preparations that need to be made for upcoming activities. 
• Teach your child to use a planner: Get your child a homework planner (many schools provide them). Help your child record upcoming tests, projects, papers, and assignments and plan out a schedule for completing things in stages to avoid cramming at the last minute.
• Utilize Systems: Set up systems for controlling clutter and maintaining order. 
• Establish Priorities: Help children learn to prioritize by expecting them to complete needed or required tasks before playing or relaxing. 
• Establish and Enforce Expectations: A variety of simple rules or expectations can be helpful for reinforcing basic principles of organization such as:
  • ​If you get it out, put it away.
  • If you take it off, hang it up (or put it away).
  • ​If you make a mess, clean it up.
  • Before you start a new activity, clean up the one you just finished.
• Establish Routines: Routines for morning, after school, and evening help children learn to manage their time and prioritize. They foster a sense of responsibility and accomplishment. 

​These are just a few examples of things you can do to help instill good habits in your children, and the best part is that all of these skills benefit you as well! 

Set Them Up for Success

There are a number of things that parents and caregivers can do to help children learn organization skills with greater ease. Consider the following:

• ​Make stuff accessible - When setting up storage for children, keep their physical limitations in mind. 
  • ​Put things that children use regularly at kid height.
  • Make sure containers are lightweight and easy to open. 
• Eliminate obstacles - Check the environment for anything that might make accomplishing a desired task more difficult or complicated and find ways to alleviate any impediments. 
  • Where possible and logical, choose containers without lids. Lids represent and added step in the process of getting things out and putting things away. As such, they are a deterant (albeit minor). 
  • If you want your kids to learn to make their beds (and have it look semi-presentable), remove the top sheet, at least when they are young. Top sheets complicate the process considerably. 
• Label Things - Labels are a great way to help children learn and remember where things belong. 
  • Keep lables simple and straight forward.
  • Include the word and a picture for young children, thus helping them practice reading skills as well as organization skills.
• Create Checklists - Use checklists to break big tasks (like cleaning the bathroom) into smaller tasks (scour sink, scrub tub, clean toilet, etc.). 
  • Download free printable cleaning checklists here.
• Creat Charts - There is tremendous satisfaction in crossing things off a chart or list. Doing so fosters a sense of accomplishment. Download free customizable kids' work charts here. Other benefits of charts are thus:
  • They allow children to visualize their progress
  • They help children remember what they need to do

Provide Motivation

Motivation is both a catalyst and an inducement. It is also a self-sustaining phenomenon. Motivation prompts us to act. When we act, we experience success, and success fuels our motivation to continue to act. Motivation can be external (think catalyst/inducement) or internal (desire for success). As a parent or caregiver, there are numerous things you can do to provide motivation to encourage children to do the things that will instill good habits.

• Provide Incentives - Allow children to earn privileges or rewards. Incentives don't have to be flashy, elaborate or expensive. Indeed, they need not cost anything at all. Examples include:
  • Sincere praise and aknowlegement - very important for self-esteem
  • One-on-one time with a parent
  • Staying up 15 minutes past bedtime
  • Enjoying a fun family outing 
• Make a Game of It - Learning new skills can be fun! Work can be fun! Helping children to understand these truths is a reward in itself. Look for ways to replace the potential drudgery and frustration of developing new habits with enjoyment. For ideas, check out this previous post. 

Be an Example

Perhaps the most important thing you can do to instill good habits in children is to set an example of the behaviors you want them to adopt. In the case of developing organization skills, you can do this by creating and maintaining an organized space. It all starts with having a place for things, knowing where things are, and putting things away consistently. It's also important to practice what you preach, so to speak. Follow the advice you give and the guideline you establish. Let them see the benefits of adopting these behaviors by observing you.