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Embracing Change as an Instrument of Gratitude and Growth

10/8/2020

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I just returned from a walk in the brisk fall air. I love fall. It is by far my favorite time of the year. I spend much of the summer anxiously awaiting its arrival, and I mourn its passing as mild, sunny days give way to winter's chill. 

The reasons for my fondness of fall are many, but this morning as I observed random leaves floating to the ground, one in particular stood out in my mind: change. I like the change in the weather, the change in activities, the change in focus, and the changes in nature. 

All this got me thinking about the concept of change, especially when considered in conjunction with some other aspects of my walk which I will share in this post as well.

We are currently undergoing a major life change. We are moving houses. I'm both excited and overwhelmed by the prospect. That is the thing with change; it can be both uncomfortable and exciting at the same time. For instance, there are many things about my current home that I love and will miss. That said, there are even more things about my new home that I am eager to enjoy. Instead of focusing on what I am giving up, I am trying to appreciate those things that I love about the old house and the enjoyment those things have brought to my life. I will look back on them with a nostalgic fondness and appreciation. I will not pine away for the loss of them. Instead, I will focus on the new experiences and opportunities that my new home affords. 

Change can take many forms, but certain types of change are commonly experienced. My walk brought to mind a number of metaphors for change which I would like to share. 
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In recent months much of the world has experienced a narrowing of the path ahead. COVID-19 has restricted people's ability to work, socialize, and function freely. Many people have keenly felt the limitations imposed by these external constraints. Others have instituted their own personal constraints in an attempt to protect themselves and their loved ones. 

At the same time, many people have utilized this time of reduced external opportunities to reflect and build inwardly. There have been so many marvelous examples of people using this time of restriction to expand their lives in meaningful ways by focusing on family, rethinking priorities, tackling projects, and purging the unwanted from their lives. 

When the path before us narrows, we can choose to see it as a limitation or an opportunity. In reality, it is both, We can utilize the duality of the circumstance to look back with gratitude and insight regarding the distance we have traveled while simultaneously focusing our efforts moving forward. 
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Sometimes, the road ahead gets steep. Troubles seem to come in bundles. Life gets a little (or a lot!) hard for awhile. At such times, we can find ourselves asking, "What next?!" as new problems present themselves. It can feel as though we are endlessly climbing. 

Just as climbing a steep hill in real life makes us physically stronger, climbing metaphorical hills can make us emotionally and intellectually stronger. The beautiful thing about hills is that they always end in an enhanced perspective. When we get to the top, we can see farther, understand our position better in relation to everything around us, and know better how to plot the course ahead. 

It can be tempting when trudging uphill to focus downward on the next step. While this method will keep us moving forward, it does little to make the journey more bearable. Instead, why not pause periodically to catch your breath and look back at the distance you've traveled? Doing so can instill feelings of gratitude, accomplishment, and hope. When you resume, try to look up and enjoy the ever-decreasing distance between yourself and the summit. 

Thinking in terms of time management, responsibilities, and other burdens, we sometimes need to lighten our load for the upward trek by laying aside, if only for a time, those things that are extraneous and superficial in order to focus on what matters most. What matters most at any given time will change with our circumstances and needs. Don't be afraid to tell others, "My path is steep right now. I need to lighten my load." Depending on who you tell, they may actively look for ways to help lessen your burden. 
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They say that what goes up must come down. When we get to the top of life's metaphorical hills, we are typically faced with a steep decline. After the difficult upward trek, it can be tempting to let gravity and our renewed energy pull us downward at an ever-increasing pace. Better to walk carefully and intentionally, enjoying the newly gained perspective. 

Following a challenging time, give yourself grace and patience as you slowly add meaningful things back into your life. Resist the urge to invite too much into your life too soon, be it activities, commitments, or stuff. 
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Occasionally, something really big comes along. It might be an illness or injury. It might be the loss of a job or a loved one. Whatever the case may be, such life changing events tend to demand an inordinate amount of our time, attention, and energy. They force us to yield to their demands and set other aspects of our lives on the top shelf to gather dust for a time.

Such events or circumstances are largely unavoidable, and in many cases, unpredictable. Many of my clients are just emerging from (or still caught up in the midst) of a life-changing situation. Their routines have been derailed, and their personal surroundings have suffered as a result. With all their energy and effort focused on managing the 'big thing' in their life, things like order and organization have yielded. That's normal, but it doesn't have to be permanent. 

When circumstances force your to yield to their demands, know that yielding, by it's very nature, is temporary. Whatever the passing obstacle, it will pass, and it will once again be safe for you to continue on your way. Don't berate yourself for "letting things get out of hand". They are just things, and over time you can regain a comfortable level of control. 
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While it would be nice to always be assured of a straight and shady path (like the one above), that isn't how life works. ​That's actually a good thing. An unbending path is a boring path void of opportunities to test ourselves and increase our strength. 
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I purposefully saved this image for the end. This part of the path is located toward the end of my walk. As you can see the path ahead curves. The sign, in fact, indicates multiple curves ahead. There are curves ahead for all of us, and we often can't see what lies around the bend (as is the case here). That's why it's good, when we get the chance, to sit down on a comfortable bench and rest. While we're at it, we might also take a moment or two to toss out any "trash" that is burdening us before stepping back onto the path to see what's around the corner. 

Change is inevitable. Change is often difficult and almost always uncomfortable. Change is also necessary and beneficial. When viewed with the proper perspective, change can be an instrument for gratitude as we look back on past experiences and the ways in which they have shaped and blessed us. Change can also be a precursor and instigator of growth in our lives as we adapt to our shifting circumstances and improve ourselves in the process. 

It isn't only our circumstances that change. We change over time as well. Our interests, tastes, needs, wants, and preferences change. Often, instead of letting go of things that held meaning or interest to our former self, we cling to them. Our progress on the path ahead, be it hilly, curvy, or wrought with obstacles, will be easier if our burden is lighter. Letting go of the things that no longer represent who you are and what matters to you, leaves you free to welcome the changes ahead. 
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How has change impacted you? What insights have you gained as you have overcome challenging times? 
10 Comments
Katelyn
10/12/2020 03:49:04 pm

What a beautiful and timely reminder!

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Sheri Steed link
10/12/2020 03:56:39 pm

Thank you! I'm so glad it struck a chord with you. ;)

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Diane N Quintana link
10/19/2020 08:53:29 am

Love this! I walk every morning and appreciate your metaphors regarding the hills and curves.

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Sheri Steed link
10/19/2020 07:29:55 pm

Thanks, Diane.

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Seana Turner link
10/19/2020 09:33:51 am

Love all the road signs and the thoughts they evoke! I know multiple people who are in the midst of a housing change right now. I think the time of stay-at-home has had many of us taking the time to think about our lives, evaluate our needs, and be intentional about our living and working conditions. I agree that the way we mentally approach a change makes so much difference. I relate to that last image... curves ahead that we cannot see. I feel this right now, not knowing what the next months will bring. Whatever they are, having a light load and a positive attitude will help I think!

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Sheri Steed link
10/19/2020 07:32:21 pm

It's so true. Life does feel a bit uncertain right now in general, and so much of the uncertainty is completely beyond our control. I think that's why it's so important to learn to look at change as an opportunity and not just something to be feared. I love the use of the word intentional. It makes such a difference.

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Linda Samuels link
10/19/2020 01:46:58 pm

I LOVE this post! Change is always top of my mind not just in relationship to my life, but also with the work I do with clients. It's all about helping them facilitate change. Sometimes we seek change. It's intentional. It's something we want. However, even though we initiate, we might not be ready to do all the work necessary to make the change. It can take time, patience, and a higher level or readiness. At other times, change is forced on us. We didn't choose to move, to lose a loved one, or face a major health challenge. In all situations, we need to give ourselves the gift of grace, patience, and curiosity. What can we learn? How can we grow? How can we lean into this change before us. And as you said, gratitude is essential.

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Sheri Steed link
10/19/2020 07:35:31 pm

Thank you, Linda. Your response made me think of my own situation. We are moving, and it is something we sought. We didn't have to move. It's exciting, but even though it is a change we sought, it's still a stressful thing. I also love the image of leaning into the change. It implies purposefulness and intentionality. I think that approach makes it so much easier to have a positive experience.

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Melbourne Irrigation link
9/25/2022 01:31:13 pm

Lovvely post

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Sheri Steed link
9/25/2022 04:51:54 pm

Thank you!

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